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Mourn with Those Who Mourn
Dear Lisa,
My close friend lost his mom about a month ago. Because of the coronavirus, they had a graveside service but no funeral. I went by his house to check on him after the service. We sat on his deck and were socially distant. My boyfriend said I shouldn't go over there anymore because the mourning period ended when his mother was buried. Do you agree?
Trying to Be a Friend
Dear Trying to Be a Friend,
Since we are all on the Covid time continuum, who's to say when a
mourning period ends? Visitations, funerals, and memorial services have all changed for pandemic safety.
I think your boyfriend is correct that the official mourning period usually ends upon burial, but I see no harm in checking in with your friend at least once a month. If possible, ask him to meet you at a nearby park for a 30-minute walk and talk. I think any friend would appreciate that kind of thoughtfulness.
